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Dear Hari!
In your broadcasts and seminars you very often say about feeling ourselves complete and enough because we are already complete and enough as spiritual beings of Divine nature.
In your lecture called "The concept of completeness" you say that all we need - is to change our perception on ourselves and the world. I was exploring my past and doing psychotherapy but it seems to me that although everyone has his own experience and traumas of the past that lead to this feeling of lack of love or money or whatever - its quite useless and impossible to find all causes that are deep in the past or even in our past lives experiences. Do we really need to heal all this enormous traumas and s.o or can we just accept that yes we have all it baggage but it doesn’t matter any more because "everybody has problems so I am fine with all of them"(c)?
So as you also like to say that the spiritual process is the easy way - so it must be some easy way of changing the perception. So what is this way? Can there be some special meditation on being enough and complete and feeling so or just the relaxing and feeling our being ( in "I am" meditation for exumple" is already enough? Or it is just an everyday practice that comes as a habbit? I meen the mental knowlage that I am enough and complete and the feeling of completeness are different things - I want this knowlage to become a constant feeling that can be a basis of my inner peace and the capacity to be of service to others
Otherwise every practice turns into trying to become enough and complete (and if I already am enough and complete then I dont need any practice - just to relax and connect to the divine or anyone I want and to express the love that I am by being of service ).

It is a bit simplistic to make a statement that begins with, "all you need is," and if I have done that, I apologize. Life is a complex combination of factors such as our past experiences, our genes, our stress, our traumas, our ever-changing states of consciousness, our biochemistry and so on. Each of us has to deal with the ever-changing state of our existence at each and every moment, and doing this properly in the context of what is relevant and useful is a major task. Therefore, one should avoid saying, "all you need is!" Rather, one can easily say, "This thing is essential and can help you enormously in your effort."

I am very confident that all the tools you require are available to you. You have also stated the essence when you said:

(and if I already am enough and complete then I dont need any practice - just to relax and connect to the divine or anyone I want and to express the love that I am by being of service ).

I am not a fan of repressing emotions, fears or desires, yet at the same time one should avoid expressing anything and everything that appears in one's consciousness as this would be counterproductive to our interests and the interests of those around us.

We have to deal with our situations step by step, day by day, in a manner that we can accept. There is no quick fix for life.

Thank you, Hari, for your answer!
I also apologize that I must have understood your words in a too simplistic way and thus made you apologizing for what you didn't mean

Hari wrote:We have to deal with our situations step by step, day by day, in a manner that we can accept. There is no quick fix for life.

But what do you mean by fixing life? Is it same way of changing the perception?
How would I understand that this is a "spot on my way" where I dont have to try to "fix" life any more and just accept what is and what I am, doesnt matter what happens and what I think about myself. Where is the difference between my negative jugement about myself (when I just need self acceptance) and faults that need to be cured?
What is the difference between trying to fix the insufficiency that is a cause of trauma and simple greed - never getting enough, wanting more and more?
The trauma can and should be cured but the greed cant be cured - it can be only stopped by will.

I am also shure I have all tools. You give more then enough tools and million thanks to you for that. I am not sure I have a proper understanding of how to use them and I want to be sure that I am fixing that needs to be fixed instead of trying to become somebody and good enough to get some " spiritual goods" instead of being of service with what I am. Am I "broken tool" or just "lazy hands"?
Where is a difference between normal emotion that comes and is expressed (like a sadness, for exumple, that is natural in some situation and the sadness that better should not be expressed and can be harmfull for others? If we always express only joy and happiness it looks like idiotism sometimes also ...

A "quick-fix" is an idiom that refers to something that will magically cure all things at once. It is not that we have to fix life. I meant there is no quick way or one method for evolution.