about love and relationships

[Nanda-grama]

Dear Hari!
My girlfriend and I discussed about the nature of love and relationships,and she asked me to ask you her question(she doesn't know Inglish and doesn't want to call her name).
So, she came to a conclusion that it is very simply to fall in love with somebody because every person when he naturally and free displays himself becomes very attractive as his spiritual energy comes to light by this way and it is attractively. And,most likely,so called compatible people are who creatives one for another such natural and safe atmosphere in which they can free display theiself and by such way they continue to be attractive one for another constantly.
But there is so called related souls and strong attraction between them exists independently on what they are compatible or not. And such relationships bring too much pain, but at the same time it helps person to grow very much. In same relationships a man decides to open or close his heart,to love independently on cirrcumstances or strink into oneself. Most likely, all had such experience of relationships in their life , and my girlfriend also passed across it.
She asks is it possible that every person can have related and simultaneously suitable for him soul somewhere or it is a rarity? And what can person do in order to attract such soul in his life?
I want to add my question. When I associated with my angels they told me that the condition of love is natural condition of soul. But usually man in his life doesn't be in such spiritual condition, and when other person evokes this feeling by some qualities which intensify it as a lens,this natural condition of soul becomes intensified and concentrated because it is focused on one object, and man feels inspiration, dizziness and happiness. He is in sriritual condition. But usually man loves by all his being and sexual desire, desire to associate and be together -adds itself to feeling of love, and then if circumstances are unfavourable for it- misfortune comes.My question is: in such case is it better to clean this feeling from other feelings and desires and to love only by heart's chakra without participation of other chakras?And is it real not stipulated, spiritual love? Or is some sense in existence of other chakras and desires and is this problem in incorrect choice of the partner?

[Hari]

It seems to me that your question has been translated through a online translation system. Therefore it is very confusing.

It is not that I'm trying to avoid answering your question but I find it very hard to even understand it. According to what I did understand, I think the answer to your question is something quite simple. I do not think it makes sense to consider having a relationship with someone that you can not have a relationship with. Psychologists might analyze the desire to have a relationship that can never be fulfilled as being a manifestation of a fear of relationships or a manifestation of one's low self-esteem. I would ask someone who insisted on attempting to have a relationship with another person who was either not interested or incapable of reciprocating why they are insisting on doing something they must well know is impossible?

Why would your friend place herself in such a contradictory situation unless she felt that she did not deserve loving relationships or even that she was worthy of being loved? Trying to attain an impossible relationship is an obvious indicator that something is extremely wrong. Therefore I would suggest that she examines her motivation carefully and ttries to understand what she wants in life. Without such deep introspection she will continue to suffer. It does not matter if blame can be placed upon the non-reciprocating party, for even though it may give some mental relief, it does not address the real issue. The real issue is the lack of capacity to accept the relationships that are available and have the potential to be attained.

I feel this is the answer to the mood of this question.

[Nanda-grama]

Thank you.